The Faster You Reset The Faster You Grow

Welcome back to Proof It's Possible! This episode explores the importance of resetting in daily life and business, offering practical strategies to manage stress, setbacks, and unexpected challenges. Hosts Jamie and Dayle share personal stories and actionable tips on how to quickly reset mentally and physically to stay focused and resilient. Tune in to discover: 

• The difference between micro and macro resets, and when you need each
• How Dayle and Jamie like to reset
• Why flipping the script and taking action are essential for resetting and growing
• Why it's time to trust the universe and the path you're on

What are your favorite ways to reset? Share your thoughts with us — we’d love to hear! DM us on Instagram @dayle_sheehan_designs & @jamiedfrancis! See you next time!

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Transcript

Dayle Sheehan (00:30)
Hi, welcome back. Thank you guys so much for joining us. Today we are talking about the ability to reset when things go haywire in our life, our business, whatever. Jamie, do you have any like times where resetting was necessary or?

Jamie (00:46)
I think

resetting, there's a grand scale resetting and then there's like everyday moment resetting. There's times when like, I'm going to lose my mind if you don't get your shoes on and get out the door and go to school on time. And where I have to like reset and be like, okay, you know what, the best approach here isn't to just get angrier and keep repeating the same thing. The best approach is to be like,

Dayle Sheehan (00:55)
Yeah, totally.

Totally.

Jamie (01:13)
Hey, would you like these shoes or these shoes? What about this? You know, you do have to reset. And oftentimes the reset isn't a grandiose, you know, like, okay, I got to restart my whole business. It's like, okay, I'm getting really angry or I'm getting really frustrated or I'm getting really overwhelmed. And you have to be like, okay, what can I do to just reset? Like whether that's going for a walk or taking a literally as simple as like taking a breath.

Dayle Sheehan (01:15)
Yeah.

Totally.

Absolutely.

Jamie (01:40)
I mean, like I need 30 seconds to just gather my thoughts and reset. And sometimes I'll even say like in moments in my personal life where I'll say to the kids like, okay, let's reset. Like if we had a bad morning and everyone's fighting, I'm like, why don't we all just have a little reset and not argue about what colour bowl we're gonna eat from this morning and just start eating.

Dayle Sheehan (01:45)
Yes.

Yes, exactly.

sure. Well, and like

with your kids, I've even said, Okay, we're just gonna relax, and we're all gonna breathe through our nose really deep. And then we're gonna breathe out through our mouth. And I know they think we're nuts. Like I genuinely know they think we're nuts. But like, they sometimes do need it. So it's like, just take a chill pill here. And but my own advice, like I've caught myself in busy moments, especially in my business where I'm like, the whole day is one of those like where I just go from like, no.

Jamie (02:09)
Yeah. Yeah. Yes.

Yes.

Dayle Sheehan (02:30)
Oh gosh, emergency. This thing needs to get done. That didn't get done. This is late. This is whatever. And I have to do, and it's so funny because it seems counterintuitive to like, if you're feeling busy with work to take time away from work. Like it's like, no, no, the best thing to do is to do the work. Cause then you'll feel less anxious around what's left on the list. And I don't like a long list that's not getting done. And I say that every week and I think you guys are sick of me saying that, but it's true.

Jamie (02:32)
Yeah.

Yeah.

Dayle Sheehan (03:00)
but for me, physical movement, which is kind of ironic too, is super important. So I'll catch myself all of a sudden, like needing a mental break. So I'll go like, do my vacuuming or wipe all the counters or like do something that just like gets me doing something else where I, and it's my little reset redo, start fresh 10 minutes later, mini work that, you know, cause I'm not great at like meditating or

Jamie (03:19)
Sometimes you need to. Yeah.

Dayle Sheehan (03:28)
turning my brain off completely, but if I'm active, I can think clearly, I can put my brain towards something else, doing something else where it...

Jamie (03:37)
Sometimes I just need

to change the room. Like sometimes I just need to like walk to the kitchen. Like I just have like a change of scenery and then when I come back I'm like, right, that's what I was, that's where that piece of people went. Yeah.

Dayle Sheehan (03:40)
Yeah.

Yes, and like get the coffee.

this is the most important thing to focus on or this

is my next step and what I got to do right now or whatever. And so I, I do think that the faster that you can learn to reset your chaos and your bad moments and your setbacks and then like, obviously there's harder times to reset. know, like you were saying, there's the micro and the macro. So the macro, it looks like somebody loses their business, let's say, or, know, has to shut down whatever.

Jamie (03:56)
Exactly.

Thank you.

Dayle Sheehan (04:18)
and or loses their job. And it's like, those are harder things. You don't just go wipe the counter and then feel better. Like that's a, you know, disregard my last comments, because it's like you are going to need to be like, giving yourself some sort of time, you know, doing the work on yourself to make the new plan, get over the sadness of it, whatever it looks like, right. And, but I think that

Jamie (04:24)
Yeah, yes.

Dayle Sheehan (04:43)
the micro tools, whether they are regulating your nervous system with like some breathing exercises, or they're wiping the counter to like relax and feel productive and to give yourself some like brain space to think or go have a shower or whatever, because I do a lot of like big thinking in the shower for whatever reason, like a water sign. So I think that water...

Like I'll be like swimming in the pool doing laps and I'll come up with my best ideas, solutions for problems. I haven't been able to figure out, you know, I'll be in the shower and I'll do the exact same thing. Something will dawn on me that I didn't think of. so it's like doing something away from your desk or away from your business or away from that. The thing that is stressing you or that made you feel sad or, know, that you need to reset from. And so I do think that resetting is like a key.

You can't just lay down and die after something hard happens. That is the key.

Jamie (05:42)
Well, I also think that it's like, goes, there's actually micro, macro, and then the in-between because there's gonna be things that are like, not like, I fully lost my business, but like, I didn't get that contract I thought I was gonna have. There's gonna be things that are not as catastrophic as the macro, but they're gonna feel like mini failures or mini little things along the way that you're like.

Dayle Sheehan (05:53)
Right. Mm-hmm.

Yes.

Jamie (06:07)
God, that's gonna sting for a few days. But the power is in how quickly you're like, you know what, wasn't meant to be, and here's the reasons why, I'm gonna focus all of my energy on something else. It's being able to flip the script really quickly. It's being able to see the silver lining. It's being able to see the reframe in all of it because that's where you keep your action going.

Dayle Sheehan (06:10)
For sure.

Refrain.

Jamie (06:34)
If you wallow too long in what you thought should have happened or you're disappointed in the way you behaved or whatever your like micro

Dayle Sheehan (06:39)
Mm-hmm.

or fear about

money, like if you lost your job, for instance, it's like your feelings are hurt, you might be feeling embarrassed, you're nervous about paying your bills. You can't just get in your bed and put the blankets over your head. Like you have to look for another job and you have to, and it doesn't hurt to stop and say, you know what, I didn't like that job. I haven't liked that job for five years. So you know what, I'm actually, this is the universe pushing me to the next thing that I wasn't.

Jamie (06:56)
No.

That's.

Dayle Sheehan (07:11)
brave enough to push myself towards.

Jamie (07:13)
Well, that's exactly it. sometimes it's just a shift in your mental energy that is the reset. And oftentimes it's always the reset. Like the reset isn't usually an action, it's usually a thought. Like when you're losing your temper because your flight is delayed and you've missed your connection, the reset isn't hopping on the next, the competitor's airline. Reset is being like, it's okay.

Dayle Sheehan (07:17)
Yes.

Mm-hmm.

Exactly.

For sure.

Jamie (07:38)
I'm gonna get a flight eventually. It was meant to be. It's okay. can have, you know, now I have three hours to do the work that I've been avoiding because I have nothing to do but sit in this airport. Like it's finding the silver lining even when you know it's a shitty situation.

Dayle Sheehan (07:40)
Yeah.

For sure. I think like if we could give one sort of resource, if you struggle with this, the book that I read that completely changed my whole thought process on bad things happening and why, and it's unfair and all the things was The Universe Has Your Back because it helps you look at every single situation like this is for my greater good, even though it feels bad right now.

Jamie (08:09)
Thank you.

Yeah.

Dayle Sheehan (08:21)
And then what that book taught me was that the airplane situation, like if my airplane's like canceled last minute, I'm always sad. I do not want to leave the airport with my suitcase and go back home and come back the next day or the next day or the next day or skip the trip altogether. But I also think to myself, what if that plane was going to crash because the reason it didn't go was because of maintenance issues or...

Jamie (08:36)
No.

Totally.

Dayle Sheehan (08:47)
Whatever. I mean, I just have to trust that I wasn't meant to be in that city or that place until tomorrow. And like, it's not going to like ruin my life in that situation. It's an airplane flight to probably a vacation, you know? And like, obviously some flights are more important than others and bigger setbacks in life that require a reset. let's say you lost your business and you had, it came with a whole bunch of

Jamie (08:53)
Mm-hmm.

Dayle Sheehan (09:13)
debt that you now no longer know how you'll pay off and all those types of things. Like I said, it's going to take more work and it's going to be harder to reframe. But if it was a business that was failing, continuing to dump time and money into it and go further into debt, not a great solution either. So you can only go along a path so long. And it's to me, it's so like brave to

Jamie (09:27)
Really.

Dayle Sheehan (09:37)
make hard decisions like that. So anybody that's doing it, I'm like, good for you for like knowing when to cut the bleeding or like stop the, stop the, you know, toilet from flooding. Cause it's like, or like overflowing. Like it's not the right thing to do. It's not the right thing to do. And you have to listen to that sometimes.

Jamie (09:45)
Yeah.

For sure, yeah. I think there's so much power in the reset. And I will say the universe has your back. We used to call it the Bible because it was like literally the first book we both read that was like got us on our heads on straight because it was right after the like 2008-ish recession or 2009 whenever that recession was. And it was like.

Dayle Sheehan (10:07)
Mm-hmm, our Bible, yes.

Totally.

Yes, in the state, yes.

Jamie (10:22)
was doom and gloom everywhere. The economy was tanking and you know, it was just doom and gloom. And we both read that book and it was like, okay, maybe this is happening for me and not to me. it's such a good book. If you've never read it, it's by Gabrielle Bernstein. The universe has your back. I highly recommend it. Yeah.

Dayle Sheehan (10:23)
Yes.

Mm-hmm.

Exactly.

Yeah. Yeah, it's amazing. Do you

have like one one reset moment that you like remember or you feel like you had to like really use all your tools? Or do you feel like every day you're like managing kids and trying to work?

Jamie (10:53)
I really think COVID

was a huge reset moment for me because it was just like completely life altering. in that just one day my business couldn't operate. Like the government said, you're shut down. We're not doing that anymore. And no like definite end date either. And I was like, God, God, don't like, dislike, hate this. It feels so uncertain. Don't want to do this.

Dayle Sheehan (11:01)
Mm-mm. Yeah.

Jamie (11:19)
And then it was like, you know, kids aren't in school. So all of a sudden we're all in the house and the office number that I had an office in was locked up because it was COVID and no one was allowed in there. It's like all my files, everything I needed was locked inside of a building that I didn't get access to. And it was just such an uncertain time. mean, I just, that was my biggest reset. And I was like, I've got to find the silver lining.

Dayle Sheehan (11:26)
Yeah, my god, no kidding.

Right, you weren't allowed downtown, yeah.

Jamie (11:46)
like I have to just find this overlining. And then I ended up being like, you know what, we just, we needed like change of scenery. We need a vacation. Let's go to grandma and grandpa's house in Kelowna. And then we moved here. like it all, one thing led to the next thing led to the next thing. And I think it's been like a great move for my family. So had that not happened, I probably wouldn't live here. You know, like all the domino effect of all the things that.

Dayle Sheehan (11:47)
Yes.

Did work out. Yeah.

Mm-hmm.

Jamie (12:12)
that happens so that you can get on the right path that you're supposed to be on, steps along the way don't always feel really comfortable. They feel really uncomfortable. Oftentimes, if you're not doing the right things, it's like the universe does have to push you in a different direction. And it's never like a, well, I mean, if you listen to your nudges, maybe they're soft, gentle nudges, but eventually the universe does like slap to the face and is like, come on, I've given you 15,

Dayle Sheehan (12:16)
for sure.

always.

Yeah. Slap you. Yeah.

Jamie (12:39)
opportunities to hear what I'm saying. So now I'm just going to make you lose your job. So you're forced to find a new one because you're just not listening when I've given you the nudges, when I've presented you like the new job offers and the billboards that say like apply here today. And you know, that's what the universe does is it presents you like soft little nudges and like, Hey, little reminders.

Dayle Sheehan (12:45)
Right, for sure.

Mm-hmm.

Yeah, exactly.

Mm-hmm.

Jamie (13:02)
physical and mental reminders that like there is another option out there here maybe look over here look at this look at this look at this and if you keep ignoring it then it goes to bigger actions like

Dayle Sheehan (13:12)
Absolutely, yes. Using COVID as an example too, I was only an interior designer at that point and I couldn't go into anyone's home. like, going into people's homes was the longest standing sort of restriction. Like they opened up like going into restaurants and sitting six feet apart wearing masks and, but going just to your neighbor's house was truly not allowed for a long time. So I'm like, I don't have a job. I genuinely don't have a job.

Jamie (13:13)
Yeah.

Yeah.

Dayle Sheehan (13:38)
And I totally panic just like you, but that's when like website design kind of came into my peripheral. And I was like, can I make a life out of that? Do I even like it enough? I only made certain number of websites. And like, I was bootstrapping through making websites and I had a friend here the other day that needed help with her website. And she's like, how did you learn all this? I'm like, just.

There was no AI, so I had to like figure it out. I had to read the help articles online and get better and do lots of them, reps, know, lots of reps. like now I would genuinely say that website design is my absolute favorite business of mine because I love the quick movement of it. I love working with entrepreneurs every day. I love that it's personal and close to your heart, but it's not so highly emotional like your house is.

Jamie (14:10)
Yeah.

Dayle Sheehan (14:27)
So now I'm in a position where in my interior design career, I only get to take the clients I want to take. And that feels great. So it's like without COVID, I would have just been an interior designer still, which like I loved. I'm not saying it's bad. It's just slower. has it, it had its downside, you know, there was something else out there for me where I could still design something and get the like hit that I needed without, you know, but it took, it took me taking the opportunity when it came up and

Jamie (14:32)
Yeah, totally.

Mm-hmm.

Dayle Sheehan (14:56)
financially, it was a bigger, it felt risky basically at the beginning.

Jamie (15:03)
while starting a business always does.

Dayle Sheehan (15:05)
It always does. So we'd love to hear the times that you guys had to reset and how did they go and have you built that muscle or that skill since. So have a great week everyone. Bye.

Jamie (15:17)
Until next time guys, bye.